Whether getting a divorce was something you wanted or didn’t, it is a tough terrain to navigate. Your emotions can make you feel like a failure and anxiety for the future can make you sick. But hey, take a deep breath and banish those negative thoughts. Like most divorce blogs for moms will say; Life after divorce isn’t a gloomy affair. You can live your best life yet after saying “I’m done”.
What next? It’s time to savor the beauty of life and rediscover yourself.
Give Grief a Chance
Before you take out the wine to celebrate or sit in front of the Tv to watch Netflix all day, acknowledge your emotions. Feel everything you need to feel — anger, pain, sadness, every emotion that hurts. But don’t dwell on them. Have a good, messy cry, if you need to.
Getting a divorce may be a relief or a regret, but there’s no denying the baggage of lingering emotions it carries (even if you are jumping for joy). Whatever decision or situation that led to your divorce, is almost always associated with grief. So, allow yourself the freedom to mourn. It is only when you acknowledge this “grief” can you muster the strength to move on.
When you are done mourning the demise of your marriage, it’s time to “truly live” and it starts with change. Yes, you are re-starting your life and moving on to new beginnings. Remember that haircut you always wanted but your partner was so aversive to, get it done. You’ve been dreaming of moving to the countryside but a ring was always getting in the way? Up and leave.
Do everything you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t because of “marriage”. Enroll in a yoga class, switch jobs, or completely change your routine and lifestyle. You could start a new course or decide to further your education to achieve career actualization. All in all, you are no longer shackled by those restrictions and you can fly as free as a bird.
Finally, you are no longer an “us” but a “me”, which means you can live your life unhinged from the influence of your partner. So, enjoy your time alone, and that doesn’t mean binge-watching soaps and Tv series all day or cleaning your house like crazy. What this means, is that you should go out more and make new friends. You can stay out for as long as it’s safe or pack a weekend bag on a whim. You no longer owe your partner an explanation or a curfew.
Enjoy Girlfriend Trips and Getaways
Being married has an imperceptible way of stealing your “girls’ time out”. But now that the ring is out of the way, hook up with your girls and plan a spa day or a trip to wherever. A fantastic day at the spa will make you feel and look good which will rub off positively on your happiness and confidence. Spa days and trips with your squad should become a major and constant highlight of your life. You need that bonding time more than you know.
Stay Healthy and Fabulous
Eat lots of fruits and vegetables, drink water as much as your body will allow, and look fabulous every day. Take plenty of rest and laugh out loud. Shop trendy clothes because you have all the time in the world to shop. Wear makeup more and smile more. Make a life-long pact with confidence and establish your happy place. Catch up on abandoned hobbies and leisurely activities. Explore the world and dare to be adventurous. Think bungee-jumping, rafting, or parachuting. Stay happy, healthy, and fabulous!
Life after divorce can be the most amazing thing to happen to you — if you let it! With Divorce comes freedom, confidence, and the opportunity to re-discover your life and aim for the stars. The end of a marriage shouldn’t sour your relationship with life, rather it should beautify all that you’ve always hold dear. This is your cue to live your best life and you should embrace it with open arms!