Tantrums are a common thing to children, especially those below three years of age. These tantrums can be a buildup of several emotions, expressing frustration, anger, and some pretty erratic behavior. These behaviors could be shouting, shrieking, screaming, falling, rolling over, running, and a heightened degree of aggressiveness.
As a parent, dealing with these toddler tantrums can be such a frustrating ordeal, especially if your child hasn’t fully developed speech and vocal communication in your language. If this is your case, be prepared for rage with expressive mumbling and noises that you’ll barely understand.
Types of Toddler Tantrums
Toddler tantrums are of two types; non-emotional tantrums and emotional meltdowns. Firstly, as a parent, you need to understand that whenever your child throws a fit or a tantrum, they do not mean manipulating or controlling you. The emotional meltdown kind of toddler tantrum usually happens when the emotional section of their brain becomes bombarded with signals, overriding the thinking or logic portion of the brain. For toddlers, they aren’t capable of going to such lengths to manipulate you. They are most likely to get emotional meltdowns when they become upset, tired, or even hungry.
Tantrums may occur very often in some toddlers, and some may not even experience such emotional fits at all. These tiny toddlers often want a larger portion of control over their environment. I mean, these little guys can barely control themselves, and yet they want additional responsibility? In the process of trying to set the power right, they may have a tantrum.
So, let us see a few ways we can prevent these tantrums from happening
- Trust your toddler.
You need to trust your toddlers and let them control some of the minor things they do, such as asking them if they’d rather have blackcurrant juice or orange juice? Or asking them if they’d rather brush before or after bathing. This is a tricky way to avoid them answering in the negative by giving them an alternative option that you decide. This would significantly reduce the back and forth over minor decisions.
- It would be best if you gave your toddler much positive attention. Always cheer them when they do something good on their initiative, such as trying to wipe the floor when they spill some water from their drinking or when they try to put their trash in the bin. You could even give them a little reward and praise for such positive behavior.
- Use distractions wisely.
Whenever you feel that a situation is about to escalate into another tantrum or a fit of emotions, you could use the short attention span of your toddler to distract them from that thing that they want but cannot have. Try starting a new interesting activity or change the environment. You could take the almost upset toddler into another room or outside if you prefer.
- Put yourself in the toddler’s position.
This method helps you determine if it is reasonable enough to let your child cry over something that might not be so outrageous after all. You’ll have the option of choosing what tantrums can happen or not. Also, knowing when your toddler is tired helps to keep you from pushing them too far to the brink of creating a tantrum or another emotional meltdown
Once the tantrum is started, you should try some of the following:
- Remain calm: Refrain from having a counter-reaction to your child’s tantrum. Try keeping your cool and let your anger, stress, or frustrations die a natural death. If you’re going to help your child remain calm, you might as well remain calm too.
- Take the child to a quiet and safe place: You should know your child best. If your toddlers’ tantrums come with much violent movement, it is best if you quickly move them to a safe location where they wouldn’t hurt themselves.
- Try to know what prompts your toddlers’ tantrums: If you need attention, you should Ignore the urge to give into attention. That will only foster such behavior in the near future. These toddlers learn from such behaviors, and it’ll be a sure ticket to get what they want next time.
Your toddlers are sweet little creatures that could be easily misunderstood due to poor emotional control and ineffective speech communication. Making your toddler appreciated for doing the right thing will go a long way in fostering positive behavior. Also, ensure that the kids get enough sleep to help their mental development and reduce erratic behaviors.