We have friends who live in England, who seemed very perplexed when we asked them if they have a weekly date night, going out, just the two of them.They said that they have “date night” every night in a way, as they eat dinner together every night after putting their daughter to bed. They get home, sit with her while she eats, talk about her day, then give her a bath, read, etc. On weekends, of course they eat all of their meals together. While we are huge proponents of the family dinner, we love the way that they prioritize their relationship, and beyond that, this is just what works for their lives. One thing they couldn’t understand is how Americans can afford to have the date night ritual, as it means hiring a babysitter, plus paying for dinner out, which has to happen at times anyway, for socializing with friends and work dinners. Since they both have demanding jobs that require travel, staying home is a bonus, and this is how they stay connected. This nightly ritual also means that they really know the details of each other’s days.
For us, we find that sometimes it isn’t until the weekend that we catch up with our spouse…or on a date night. How do you handle having quality time with your spouse, not at the expense of family time, or your bank account?