Or did we? Regardless, this refrain seems embody a certain tension between the good and bad that we grew up with (no seat belts, second-hand smoke, unsupervised play outside until the dinner time), on the one hand, and our generation’s brand of hyper-conscious parenting. So let’s take the case of car seats, which we can all agree are totally essential. There are those rare occasions when you need to get from Point A to Point B, and, for a bunch of reasons, you have a bunch of kids in your car and not enough car seats. Or you’re in foreign city, trying to get from the airport to your hotel in a taxi but you don’t have a booster. When does necessity—or certain When in Rome ethos you promised to maintain into parenthood—trump the rules? We don’t have a clear answer. We’re just putting it out there.